Yesterday I was down for the count with a stomach virus and that gave me a lot of time on my hands I’m not used to having. As I thought on the changes I’d like to make in my life, I scoured the internet for resources to teach me HOW to get there. I settled on “You Can Heal Your Life” , by Louise Hay and immediately downloaded it onto my Kindle. I’m so glad I did.
I highly recommend this book for anyone who feels like their life isn’t working and hasn’t a clue where to start. I devoured the book in one day and put it into practice when I woke up this morning.
One of the chapters of her books asks you to write down all the negative things you were told as a child by adults and compare them to the negative things you say about yourself. Then look at what’s happening in your life and see if the negative outcomes match the negative thoughts you have about yourself. By golly, they did! I was hooked!
The theory here boils down to this – you get what you think you should. So, if you think positively you should see it show up in your life the same way you do when you think negatively.
Just to give you an idea of the negative thoughts that go through my mind, I’ll make a list of my top 10. Perhaps, you share some of these as well.
You Get What You Think
- Nobody is there for me
- Nobody respects me or sees my value
- Nobody listens to me
- Everybody picks on me
- I’m never happy in my jobs
- I’m bad with people
- I don’t know what I want
- I’m a failure at life
- I never have enough money
- I never meet the right guys
Ok, so guess what I have in my life right now with these thoughts? I have difficulty with people at work, I don’t get respect, I am surrounded by constant conflict, don’t have enough income and I don’t in fact meet guys that feel right for me. Surprise, surprise!!
Change Your Mind
So, today I decided to start to retrain the brain. I selected a few general affirmations and a few specific ones that spoke to me and repeated them throughout the day. Here’s what I chose:
- “I approve of myself”
- “I am willing to change”
- “I am willing to release all my resistance”
- “I am willing to release my need for…(ie. approval)
- “I now realize that I have created this condition. I am willing to release the pattern in my consciousness that is responsible for this condition.”
- “I trust that the universe is providing for me everything that I need and I am safe and well taken care of.”
- “I am willing to release the need to be unworthy. I am worthy of the very best in life and I now lovingly allow myself to accept it.”
- “I am totally open and receptive to a wonderful new position, one that uses all my talents and abilities, and allows me to express creatively in ways that are fulfilling to me. I work with and for people whom I love, and who love and respect me, in a wonderful location and earning good money”
- “I am willing to release my need to be noticed”
- “I am willing to release my need for praise”
- “I choose to let go of my anger, so that I make better clearer decisions.”
Entering a Brand New Day…
As soon as my alarm clock went off I committed myself to saying 5 things I’m grateful for before I could sit up on my bed. Then, I read the affirmations above before I was allowed to stand. Finally, I walked to the mirror and read http://aplacefortheheart.co.uk/louise-hay/louise-hay-affirmations/ while looking into my own eyes.
Throughout the day, I reminded myself of those affirmations. I even brought my index card of affirmations with me in case I forgot. When a negative thought came in, I said STOP! and replaced it with a gratitude and another affirmation.
One of the great pieces of advice that was offered is that you don’t have to know “HOW” it will happen you just have to be “WILLING”. Basically, the change in mindset will send a signal to the universe that the expectations have changed. Be patient and consistent.
Already today, I noticed MAJOR differences. First and foremost, I literally had ZERO conflict in my work day at either job. That’s 14 hrs conflict free. I haven’t had a day like that in months. Even when I got a rude email, I took a deep breath replied kindly, let it go and went on about my day.
I received more smiles, more cooperation, warmer relations and even had an easier time in traffic leaving me with enough time to get some shopping done, order dinner, and get 15 min. in a massage chair all before my next job started.
The point is…it all went smoother. I was calmer. I felt like I was in the moment and I enjoyed my day! This was enough to convince me to carry on using this new method.
I’m looking forward to discovering what I can create by simply changing my own thoughts.
How have you brought about change in your life by a simple shift in focus?
With love from aneternaltraveler 😉