Today at work we had a half-day in preparation for the Thanksgiving holiday. This always throws off my schedule of the kids that I regularly work with. So, I’m left with figuring out where I can be of service.
It struck me today that when I was given the time and the choice at work go where I wanted to help, I make very different choices than when I’m assigned to be somewhere. The first thing that came to mind was, who do I enjoy working with? Then, where could I learn something?
I picked the class I wanted to work in and offered my help. The teachers were grateful and I got to know some other kids better while learning how to work with different developmental disabilities. I actually enjoyed myself and the time flew by.
All the way home from work, it got me thinking about how so often we ask ourselves what we really want out of life. Many times though, the choices we make have nothing to do with what we want at all. We look instead at where we could make more money or status or at commute time, etc. Today, by way of having to make a decision about what to do with my time at work, I thought instead about what I actually wanted to do for a change and it brought me real joy.
We’ve all heard the expression, do what you love and the money will follow, but how often do we actually find ourselves opening up to notice what that is? How often do we believe we don’t even have a choice? We do what we think others expect of us, we worry, we keep busy, but how close is any of this bringing us to finding out what it is we love to do?
There have been many half-days before. There was nothing extraordinary about it by itself. I truly believe that what made today different was the fact that I checked-in with my own needs and wants and I finally asked the right questions for me to find that answer. Finally, this expression resonated with me and I understood how to manifest it in my life.
When you feel lost or think you don’t have choice or that nothing will ever change, it’s time to check-in with yourself.
To get yourself started, ask and answer 2 questions when your inner critic flares telling you why you can’t or what you have to do.
1) Is that really true?
2) What are the alternatives?
Once you see that it is not true and you do have other options, then you can begin to open yourself up to ask what you really want and actually notice what makes you happy. Then, as the shampoo bottle says, rinse and repeat 🙂 In other words, KEEP doing it as often as you can.
At some point you’ll notice that your life is filled mostly if not entirely with the work and the people you love and you are well provided for instead of feeling like you are a slave to the needs of others. Now that’s freedom!
With love from aneternaltraveler 😉