Before you read this, make sure that you are in a place where you will be undisturbed for at least 15 minutes. Pull your car over and sit inside if there is no place at work or home. Just find a place where you can be alone.
Imagine for a moment that it is the beginning of a new day. You lay in bed and feel the way the sun warms your face and the way your body has relaxed into your bed. Even though your eyes remain closed they can sense that daylight has come as the brightness seeps through your eyelids. A brand new day is upon us.
Before your first thoughts of the day begin racing through your head, breathe. Really inhale and exhale. Do this 5 times. Now, feel the weight of your body on the surface beneath you. With your eyes still closed, smile. Keep the smile on your face and keep breathing slowly.
Sense how beautiful you are when you smile. Imagine the beauty of your face. Notice how your whole body feels when you smile. Perhaps a tear comes to your eye since you haven’t thought much about that in a while.
Imagine if at this moment before you even open your eyes and begin your day, you are just right as you are. Imagine that you are filled with amazing strengths and capabilities. Imagine that your weakness are less important than your strengths. Imagine your greatest strengths lie just beneath your weaknesses. Imagine that you don’t need to be fixed. Imagine that you are not broken. You are ok as is.
Imagine that you already have all the tools you need to have a great day. Imagine that you can handle whatever comes your way. Imagine that every person you meet and every situation you find yourself in is temporary. Imagine that your happiness is as fleeting as your sadness. It is a moment. It is not permanent.
Imagine smiling when your heart is breaking simply because you know that moments are just that — moments. And at any moment we choose we can look at something another way. We can start a chain reaction in our minds, bodies and lives with just a smile.
Go on hold that goofy smile a little longer than it feels natural to do. You might start laughing. Feel your mind shift. Each breath you take reminds you that your heart is beating, your body is working, your mind is firing away. You are a beautiful, capable, whole and vital being. You are not broken. You are still ok as is.
Now, quickly name 5 things you are grateful for while you continue to smile and breathe. Don’t over-think it. Just name them.
You’ve come into this earth as uniquely as each and every one of us has. You have a purpose on this earth as you are. There will never be a more perfect version of you than you. You see the world differently than I do. You share yourself with others differently. You cry about things that I may not and you laugh at things that other people don’t think are funny. You make love as your body, mind, and spirit guide you to do. All uniquely you. You cherish people who love you and you can be hurt by those who harm you too. But you are still ok as is.
Allow yourself to feel what you do, but remember and never forget that these feelings don’t define you. They are reactions and reactions can change as we change what we choose to see in our view. I am me and you are you and each and every day we can only do the best we can do. There is no more, no less and there is stress when we forget that others have the right to do what they want to do too. But so do you. We look at what we see as limits and we think that is all we can do. You are not what you think and most of the time we have a limited view.
We respond as we’ve learned to, but there is something we can do. Let yourself accept yourself as you are. Don’t try to squash it or fake it or put it in a cake and bake it just to make it more palatable for those around you. You are still ok as is. Ok as You.
If what you do does not give you the results you want, then change it. If you don’t know how right now, find a way. You have everything you need to do what you need to do. And you have what you need to make changes too. As you go on your journey continue to acknowledge that you are still ok as is. Just simply be willing to change how you do what you do because you want a different result than is coming to you. That is all. No judgement, shaming, blaming or guilt. It doesn’t matter how long the journey is as long as you are on a path towards your goal.
Finally, remember that there will be uncertainty. We actually control far less than we think. Happiness in life is directly proportional to how much you can let go of and how comfortable you can become with uncertainty. Trust yourself. You don’t have to know how or when you will get there all at once. Take one step, then another. Trust. Just trust that you are still ok as is and have everything you need to get to where you want to go.
This is your journey and it all begins with the willingness to take the first step. Then another and another until you have created the momentum to step without wondering if you can. Each step, feel the firm ground beneath your feet. You are safe. You are enough. You are ok as is.
With love from aneternaltraveler 😉