There was this awesome line in an ok movie I just saw called “Brightest Star”. During a conversation between these two guys; one who was stuck on this one girl and didn’t want anyone else and another who couldn’t take any one woman seriously. It went something like this,
Guy 1: Are you still stuck on the girl?
Guy 2: Yeah man, isn’t it ever hard for you to get over a girl?
Guy 3: No, not really. I see it this way. It’s not so much THE GIRL. It’s more like each girl is just another one on the path to the next one.
I thought, BAM that’s it! There ARE two kinds of guys and it’s NOT how we typically categorize the types.
It’s not just: Type 1: the monogomous Type 2: the whore.
It’s more like: Type 1: The guy who really put his heart into the woman he was with, so he grieves when she’s gone. Type 2: They guy who moves on quickly because he was never invested that much anyway.
I guess I want a guy who really invests his heart, and soul too, not just a monogamous paycheck.
The more I think about it, a lot of people are monogamous for a lot of reasons. It doesn’t mean they’re really into you. They can be comfortable, have kids with you, financially dependent, etc. So, while being a one-woman-man is super important, that’s really only half the equation.
If man’s history is such that they move on so quickly to” the next girl on the path”, where does that leave you right now? Not very stable or very special at all. How likely is it that he will stick around when times are tough? Very unlikely. Ya can’t build much on a quicksand foundation.
So here’s the rub — if you want to be with someone who will be there “through good times AND bad, sickness and health”, then pick the guy that is already built to last. Date the guy that actually WANTS things to work and would do all it takes to make it work.
Cause there’s no way you’ll turn Type 2 into Type 1. You can’t make a man decent, he has to show up that way.
-with love from aneternaltraveler 😉
“I never stopped believing it’s gotta be you, it’s just gotta be me too.”