We ladies all know the stereotypical a**hole.
He’s hot, arrogant, has a certain kind of swagger. He makes you crazy in your head and between your legs. We don’t know why we stick around because he’s such a jerk. But something keeps us stuck on him like white on rice.
Unfortunately, these drop dead gorgeous heart throbs are the only easy on the eye. They are hard everywhere else (damn it, that’s not what I meant – deep breath..focus). They pick you up and drop you down. When you need them most they’re not around. You stick with it wanting to turn it into something more, but sooner or later you end up crying on the floor. Not pretty. Not worth it.
Have you ever run into a guy that is average looking or maybe a little above and thought “eh, he’s ok”. Then, he opens his mouth to speak and is magically transformed into the most amazing man you’ve ever seen? Here again you can’t quite figure out what keeps you so attracted, but in this case it’s a good thing.
He’s like a breath of fresh air – a real good guy – so beautiful inside – a perfect combination of character traits. He’s funny, humble, intelligent, compassionate, selfless. These guys are really uncommon. When you think about it that way – stud muffins are a dime a dozen.
Too often we are trained to equate good looks with good character, but looks aren’t gonna let you go the distance with someone. Character counts in a very big way. The older I get the more I realize that truly good-hearted people are few and far between.
I have never met a really good-looking guy who doesn’t have a ginormous ego – a sense of entitlement. It’s as if they don’t think they have to be a decent person or treat people decently because their looks give them a free pass. Keep in mind these guys are easy to find – they are the one’s with their heads so far up their own asses they can’t see you. As far as I’m concerned, these are some of the most unattractive people I’ve ever known.
They are empty vessels. Belly-button gazers.
There is nothing sexier than a man who is comfortable with himself and doesn’t think he’s the shit. He knows his shit stinks (uh..because everyone’s does). They are simple and so loyal to you that each encounter with them leaves you wanting more. You know they love you and they are there for you when you need them most. He sticks to his word and is loyal through adversity.
The difference here is that when you are looking at a good man, you’re seeing him from the inside out. An asshole looks good outside, but there’s nothing to see when you go deeper.
Recently, I had to let go of someone who was no good for me. We’d been on a yo-yo together for so long. I am so glad I finally did because it opened the door for that good man to walk through. Sticking around and hoping someone will change for you is a waste of time. We’ve all heard it before and I can tell you from my experience, it is true. You are literally keeping the good guy away while you make room (and excuses) for someone who doesn’t give a shit about you.
I don’t know about you, but I want someone who is compassionate, caring, humorous, not just a charmer. I want to be able to rely on him and know he’s got my back, who brings love and positivity into my life.
Looks come and go, but good character lasts a lifetime. And I want to go the distance with someone who can hack it.
-with love from aneternaltraveler 🙂