Everyone wants to be happy. We live in a society where any inconvenient thought or feeling is considered “drama.”
How do we find our happy place? Can we plot out our journey with happiness as the final destination? Can we steer clear of the “drama” until we are only sourrounded by people with no needs at all? Will that make us happy?
Avoiding unhappiness, is not the road to happiness
How many times have you heard yourself say, I need to get away? How many times have you walked out on people or situations that challenged you to stay present? How many times have you drunk, smoked, fucked, shopped, etc. too much just to avoid facing the unhappiness in your life? You’re not alone. This is a place where we can stop lying to ourselves, put down the mask and look into the mirror.
People are not happier because they’ve been through so little. They are happy because of how they handled getting through so much.
Fear: Ah yes! Your fear can kill you from within making you second guess yourself into inaction. Fearing death makes you afraid to live. To really live is to smile at the face of death and say “thank you for one more day”.
Happiness is in all the moments on the periphery.
It does not come when we try to force it or search for it or put a laser focus on it. It is when we stop looking that we catch glimpses of it out of the corners of our eyes. It is there in the moments we are enjoying a conversation, a play, the birth of our child, a five second orgasm. It is the moment when we confess to another our truth and they say with their eyes, I love you as you are.
Clariry of Purpose is knowing what you’re willing to lose to keep that happiness.
The key to everlasting happiness is knowing what you value the most and relentlessly pursuing it with all your might for the rest of your life.
For example, if the happiness of your spouse makes you happy and s/he is currently suffering, then you will not feel well either. You will feel her pain, suffer with him. Your happiness will elude you. Therefore, you must work for her happiness directly and your own, indirectly. You see, your smile, your hapiness is the by-product of achieving what you value most – the hapiness of your wife.
Figure out what you value the most, pursue it tirelessly and you will know how to acheive everlasting happiness.
Mine is to be loved and accepted for who I truly am. This has been the main pursuit of my entire life. So goes the name…aneternaltraveler.
With love from aneternaltraveler 😉