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Smile More Everyday

I was thinking today about the many ways in which we frustrate ourselves as human beings.  I wondered if there was a common cause of the hell we put ourselves through. So, I asked the question and waited for my mind to speak up.

Hours later…..

It came to me that much of our frustration can be traced to trying to change things or people that are not ready to change or feel no need to. Without realizing it many times, I think we expect others to consider our way of doing things or our way of thinking as obvious brilliance.  If they don’t comply we call them names or distance ourselves or worse gather other people together to “hate” them too.  Sometimes that anger turns inward and becomes depression, especially when we take their behavior as a sign of our failure or inadequacy.

wpid-20131213_104651.jpgSometimes, in fact I think more often than we realize, we have to accept things as they are in the present. We cannot force our way or change someone else.  Trust me, just like you I wish I could too. That annoying, undermining co-worker, the self-centered family member, the careless friend, and so on and so forth.  Trust me. I get it.  Why do you think I spend so much time trying to noodle my way into alternative pathways of thinking?? I struggle with these issues and I want you to know you’re not alone because we all do.  Heck sometimes WE are these people for others.

What I’m beginning to learn is that while we are on the path to accepting others “as is”, we are going to have a lot of stress and frustration to manage.  Acceptance is waaaaaay harder than hate.  Acceptance asks us to let go of our own egos for the chance to be a great leader.  Acceptance isn’t being passive. It is an active process and the greatest opportunity to eventually create real lasting change.

Most people don’t change or collaborate or compromise, because they feel threatened and defend their ego or their position. If you play into this, which most of us do, you end up with a stalemate. Everybody is positive they are right and each one digs in their heels.

In order to become the change you want to see in this world, you must release the obsessive thoughts that have become your focus in order to make room for more constructive energy to enter.

Exercise is Good for Your BrainPersonally, I do this by engaging in some form of physical activity during which I push myself past my own mind and out of my thoughts.  Then, I keep going until I find myself laughing or smiling. Let me give you an example, yesterday I went for a long bike ride with a lot of changes in elevation. My lungs and my legs were really feeling it. To keep going I had to stay completely focused on believing that I could get up that next hill.  So, that meant I had to get rid of thoughts that weren’t helping me achieve that goal. That means those obsessive thoughts had to take a hike while I was on the bike 🙂 When I made it up the hill, I was feeling like my lungs and legs would explode but it also felt good to show myself I could do it.

blond girl swingAt my half way point, I saw a park with swings.  A mother and child were swinging together and they looked so happy.  Next to them was another empty swing.  I stared at it for awhile remembering the joy I felt swinging as a child.  I wondered if it would be foolish to do it again at my age and whether my hips would even fit!  I said the heck with it and got on the swing and began to push myself higher and higher just like I did when I was a kid. I found myself spontaneously screaming Weeeeeeeeee!!! and smiling and laughing with such joy that I forgot all the negativity I started out with at the beginning of my ride. I was playing with the child inside that was always there waiting for me.

The point is this: Find a way to smile more everyday. Let go of the tension everyday.  Don’t let it build up. If it takes an intense walk, run, bike ride, etc. to reset, then DO THAT. Everyday grant yourself peace of heart and mind by choosing to find your smile. Choose to play with that child inside. Reconnect. Remember who you are – you are not a reflection of other people’s behavior. You don’t need to change anyone or anything to feel good about yourself and your life right now.  Just be.

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Gratitude Challenge Day 18 of 30

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Day 18 of 30 – Gratitude for something that fills me with hope

These past few years post-divorce have left me pretty hopeless. Where as once upon a time I knew what I would do five years from now, I found myself barely motivated to make it to the next day.

Something really needed to change. One day I got this idea into my head that I could combine my background in science with my newfound passion for education and become an science teacher. So before I left to walk the Camino de Santiago I took the Middle School Science Praxis test for the hell of it. This measures whether or not you’re capable in the subject matter. I thought, if I don’t pass it is a sign. If I do, no more excuses. Get to it!

While walking on the Camino I learned that I did in fact pass. When I realized that there were no longer any excuses left for not taking the next step, that I was capable of even more than I realized and I was about to walk 500 miles across an entire country, hope along with motivation, suddenly returned.

So, I am filled with hope for becoming a science teacher and I am so grateful that I have something to look forward to again.

With gratitude from aneternaltraveler 😉

You Are Ok As Is

Before you read this, make sure that you are in a place where you will be undisturbed for at least 15 minutes.  Pull your car over and sit inside if there is no place at work or home.  Just find a place where you can be alone.

Imagine for a moment that it is the beginning of a new day.  You lay in bed and feel the way the sun warms your face and the way your body has relaxed into your bed. Even though your eyes remain closed they can sense that daylight has come as the brightness seeps through your eyelids. A brand new day is upon us.

Before your first thoughts of the day begin racing through your head, breathe. Really inhale and exhale.  Do this 5 times. Now, feel the weight of your body on the surface beneath you.  With your eyes still closed, smile. Keep the smile on your face and keep breathing slowly.

Sense how beautiful you are when you smile.  Imagine the beauty of your face.  Notice how your whole body feels when you smile. Perhaps a tear comes to your eye since you haven’t thought much about that in a while.

Imagine if at this moment before you even open your eyes and begin your day, you are just right as you are.  Imagine that you are filled with amazing strengths and capabilities.  Imagine that your weakness are less important than your strengths.  Imagine your greatest strengths lie just beneath your weaknesses.  Imagine that you don’t need to be fixed. Imagine that you are not broken.  You are ok as is.

Imagine that you already have all the tools you need to have a great day. Imagine that you can handle whatever comes your way.  Imagine that every person you meet and every situation you find yourself in is temporary.  Imagine that your happiness is as fleeting as your sadness.  It is a moment. It is not permanent.

Imagine smiling when your heart is breaking simply because you know that moments are just that — moments.  And at any moment we choose we can look at something another way.  We can start a chain reaction in our minds, bodies and lives with just a smile.

Go on hold that goofy smile a little longer than it feels natural to do.  You might start laughing. Feel your mind shift. Each breath you take reminds you that your heart is beating, your body is working, your mind is firing away. You are a beautiful, capable, whole and vital being.  You are not broken.  You are still ok as is.

Now, quickly name 5 things you are grateful for while you continue to smile and breathe.  Don’t over-think it. Just name them.

You’ve come into this earth as uniquely as each and every one of us has. You have a purpose on this earth as you are.  There will never be a more perfect version of you than you.  You see the world differently than I do. You share yourself with others differently. You cry about things that I may not and you laugh at things that other people don’t think are funny.  You make love as your body, mind, and spirit guide you to do.  All uniquely you.  You cherish people who love you and you can be hurt by those who harm you too.  But you are still ok as is.

Allow yourself to feel what you do, but remember and never forget that these feelings don’t define you.  They are reactions and reactions can change as we change what we choose to see in our view.  I am me and you are you and each and every day we can only do the best we can do.  There is no more, no less and there is stress when we forget that others have the right to do what they want to do too. But so do you. We look at what we see as limits and we think that is all we can do.  You are not what you think and most of the time we have a limited view.

We respond as we’ve learned to, but there is something we can do.  Let yourself accept yourself as you are.  Don’t try to squash it or fake it or put it in a cake and bake it just to make it more palatable for those around you. You are still ok as is.  Ok as You.

If what you do does not give you the results you want, then change it.  If you don’t know how right now, find a way. You have everything you need to do what you need to do.  And you have what you need to make changes too. As you go on your journey continue to acknowledge that you are still ok as is.  Just simply be willing to change how you do what you do because you want a different result than is coming to you.  That is all.  No judgement, shaming, blaming or guilt.  It doesn’t matter how long the journey is as long as you are on a path towards your goal.

Finally, remember that there will be uncertainty.  We actually control far less than we think.  Happiness in life is directly proportional to how much you can let go of and how comfortable you can become with uncertainty. Trust yourself. You don’t have to know how or when you will get there all at once.  Take one step, then another. Trust. Just trust that you are still ok as is and have everything you need to get to where you want to go.

This is your journey and it all begins with the willingness to take the first step.  Then another and another until you have created the momentum to step without wondering if you can.  Each step, feel the firm ground beneath your feet.  You are safe.  You are enough.  You are ok as is.

With love from aneternaltraveler 😉

Just Do It (woosh ;)

It’s taken me over a year of working in a gym & being asked by members to train them after they saw the intensity & results of my workouts, just to work up the courage to become a certified personal trainer.

I promised myself I’d make this happen by the end of 2013. On December 30th 2013, I passed the test with flying colors and it was official.

My next obstacle was finding the courage to follow-through on the leads I’d gotten for clients.

Since I promised myself that I would do whatever it takes in 2014 to stay positive, find the courage to act despite my fears & create the life I want, I realized this was going to be my chance to put my money where my mouth is and make it happen.

So I picked up the phone, sent out those emails & texts and gave it everything I got to follow through on those leads. Feel the fear, do it anyway!

You know what happened? I got a client who signed up for 6 months of training 3 days a week with me! I also passed a pre-screening interview  with a master trainer who’s been in the business 35 years & has trained Olympic athletes. We’re meeting face-to-face on Wed. to discuss how we can work together on training a wide variety of clients!

The point is this – no matter how much you study or how scared you feel, at some point all your effort only counts when you make a move and keep making them.

Sometimes that move is a real leap of faith. For example, I have no idea where all these opportunities will lead. I am nervous. But without a doubt, I’m sure to learn something of value.

Sometimes, we have to remind ourselves that we don’t have to be perfect to be acceptable. Do you know what I mean by this?

Too often low self-esteem or sense of perfectionism, or fear of capability is lurking behind our unwillingness to take a leap; a risk on ourselves.

Here’s a secret..

You’ll never be perfect. You will be afraid sometimes. You will feel insecure. You will fail. You will succeed. You will always have something to learn. You are more capable than you realize.

You’re allowed to feel all that and go for your dreams anyway. If you wait until you’re 100% sure, you’ll never get off the ground.

So go ahead…take a risk..screw it up…get back up..because you learned something…be proud of yourself…some people never even try…let them laugh from the sidelines..let ’em try to tell you how the game is played while you’re the one getting bloodied up in the ring.

I was amazed with what happened when I took a risk on myself; when I moved my potential into action. I couldnt help but imagine where I’d already be if I took that risk 1 year ago when first felt it?

What are you holding yourself back from? What could your life look like if you made a move? What are you waiting for?

With love from aneternaltraveler 😉

Peace Be with You

I had this sent to me in an email today and I wanted to share it with all of you. I could think of nothing more to add. I hope you enjoy it.

“Today may there be peace within. May you trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be.

May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith in yourself and others.

May you use the gifts that you have received and pass on the love that has
been given to you.

May you be content with yourself just the way you are.

Let this knowledge settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love.

It is there for each and every one of us.”

With love from aneternaltraveler ; )

Unhappy…Have You Considered Trying This?

I’ve been snowed in for the past two days and it’s given me a lot of time to think. Maybe too much lol! Currently, as I’m writing to you I’m eating peanut butter cups for dinner. Yeah..time to see people again soon 😦

Aaaaaanyway…what I’ve been thinking about a lot is the unhappiness that many of us feel, particularly in the USA.

It’s especially interesting to me that of all the countries I’ve traveled to, some of which were facing heart-wrenching levels of poverty, I’ve never seen unhappier people than I do in one of the richest countries of the world – the USA.

The United States is a fairly young country in the grand scheme of country ages and it was founded by opportunists who came from all over the world to make a new life. Because of this, America has long been a symbol of great innovation, opportunity and freedom around the world.

In the short time I’ve been on this earth (36 years) as an American, I’ve noticed a number of changes. I am certain that those who have been here longer have experienced far more that I’d love for you to share in my comments section.

I believe that the arrogance of our youth has cost us in many distinct ways. Just as a teenager rarely considers the consequences of their actions, I believe that we as a country often do not either.

Let me give a handful of examples though I know there are plenty more…

  1. We find ourselves continuing to think we are the best in all categories despite the continued proof that we’re not.  So we don’t work to improve what we refuse to see.
  2. We too often prefer to shoot a gun at people we don’t understand at home or in other lands rather than sit down and have a conversation. So, we have lobbyists who ensure access to guns, but no lobbyists clamoring to educate our youth on conflict resolution.
  3. We are so sure that our way is the only right way. So, we force our way onto people who we make convenient assumptions about.
  4. We rarely even give ourselves a real opportunity to know others in our own country or around the world.  So we judge them without any evidence and keep ourselves at a distance.
  5. And oh…. that sense of entitlement that we are owed something without having to give back anything of ourselves. New generations have lost their work ethic.

To make matters worse, what grows out of the righteousness of our own ignorance is even more emptiness when we buy into the notion that success can be defined by material acquisition and conquest. Conquest of the world, the environment, our careers, our challenges and over other humans.

It all leads towards separation. Us vs. Them Mentality.

Maybe you’ve felt that uneasy nagging feeling that I feel and haven’t been able to put your finger on it.

When you look at how you’re asked to show up in this world, do you have to wonder anymore why it all feels like a struggle?  Why it hurts?  Why it is lonely?  Why you feel angry and sad and lost?  Why you never seem to get ahead or even know what you’re working for?

I believe that there is a divine consciousness that flows through each and every one of us. Call it by the name you choose; the Universe, God, Allah, Buddah.

It’s all the same.

It is that nagging belief somewhere deep inside that we are all connected by a power greater than the individual.  We so rarely take the time to plug into that power source. Sure, we go to our place of worship, but we miss the message. We claim spirituality and keep ourselves away from others.

We are separated from each other because we were never taught to be cooperative. We’re taught to be competitive. We strive as individuals to beat our opponent. There are winners and losers and we fight to be a winner and feel we can stand even taller when we smear the face of the “loser”.

It may seem small or insignificant and I know you’ve heard it a million times before, but I’ll say it one more time on the odd chance that this time you hear it…

The only change we can make is within ourselves. This is all we really control.

The rest is an illusion.  Trying to control everything and everyone else, is what’s making us unhappy.

And when you start telling yourself that you are too small to make a difference, imagine that there are others just like you doing the same thing at this moment. Consider how your strength just multiplied.

When we all come together and go a different way, we finally become the change we want to see in this world. And I believe that’s what our recent leaders such as, Gandhi or Martin Luther King Jr., or even President Obama were trying to show us.

“Someday, the realm of liberty and justice will encompass the planet. Freedom is not just the birthright of the few, it is the God-given right of all His children, in every country. It won’t come by conquest. It will come, because freedom is right and freedom works. It will come, because cooperation and good will among free people will carry the day.”
― Ronald ReaganThe Quest for Peace, the Cause of Freedom

I’d love this country to be a true leader once again. But as a more mature “individual”. Leading without it being at the expense of others. Finding compassion for ourselves and others.

As it stands we’ve lost our compassion and as such we’ve reduced people to numbers and objects to be pointed out as examples of “unfortunate people”.

And in this state, we’ve also diminished ourselves because we’ve failed to see that, we ourselves, exist in them. We are more than individuals. We are also a group of people that affect one another here and around the world.

If you get right down to it and really tune in, it’s the core message of every religion out there. It is a universal human belief across lands and cultures.

We have so much capacity as individuals and even more as a cohesive unit.

ecosocialismcanada.blogspot.com
ecosocialismcanada.blogspot.com

Until we realize that each persons’ well-being affects our own well-being, all of us will stay sick, lonely and separated from each other in a state of poverty no matter how much money we have.

I believe this is why so many people I’ve met in third world countries seem happier than we do.  They rely on each other.  They work as a unit cooperatively with each person doing their part.  Together they do have more than they’d have alone.

There is enough for everyone.  Happiness is as close as our nearest neighbor.  We just have to learn to share and cooperate with one another in order to get to the next stage of our development.

Maybe we could start by concentrating on what we stand for instead of having another “war” against something.

What do you think?

– With love from aneternaltraveler 😉

Here’s Your Proof!

Awhile back when it was still warm enough to wash my car, I tried to connect my hose to the faucet at the front of my house.  I’d been using the back faucet and dragging the hose around to the front which was a pain.

The problem was that the inside shut off valve was broken off so I had to use a pliers to turn it on.  Every time I did that it leaked down my wall.

Broken Shut Off Valve
Broken Shut Off Valve

So this was a no go.  I am a very handy person, but I have copper pipes and I know nothing about soldering.

My neighbor saw me running in and out of the house like a lunatic trying to see what I could do to fix it.

He said, “there’s no way around it, you have to get a new valve.  So I left it alone thinking aw heck, winter is almost coming and I’ll make due until next year.

Today, I hear a knock at my door as I’m racking my brain thinking of what to write for my latest blog post.  Who’s standing there but my neighbor with a shutoff valve in hand.  He said, “Guess what I found?”  I said, “Looks like a shut off valve to me ;).”

No Soldering Required!!
No Soldering Required!!

“Yes, but you don’t have to solder with this one. It’s new technology. You just have to cut the pipe into a smooth surface, slide each side securely into the hole, and you’re done!”  “I saw it and I thought of you so here you go!”

Then, he said “Oh and by the way, my friend stopped by last week and said he saw you raking your leaves out front.  By the time I came out, you were finished.  I have a blower you can use the next time you want to clean up your yard.  Just let me know.”

I woke up today and practiced my intentions and affirmations just as I explained in yesterday’s post “Just Be Willing”.

I couldn’t help but think about the affirmation where I say that,

I trust that the universe is providing for me everything that I need and I am safe and well taken care of.

I just want to say Thank You 🙂

I follow another wonderful blog on here that I highly recommend.  It’s called Chrissie’s Take.  Just today, she posted  that perhaps because of her new found positive outlook her family is gathered around her once again.  Read Chrissie’s post here: Grinch No More – a part of her “No Negativity Challenge”.

The proof just keeps showing up for me and for others.  Change your thoughts, change your life.

With love from aneternaltraveler 😉